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It's Time To Re-Define "Only Child Syndrome"

The stigma of being an only child is a powerful one. From time to time, I will meet someone who is surprised because I don't "seem like an only child". 
Um . . . Thanks?


SELFISH
AGGRESSIVE
BOSSY
SPOILED ROTTEN
SELF-CENTERED
ENTITLEMENT 
LONELY

Raise your hand if you know someone that has, at one point, exhibited one of the personality traits above. Keep your hand raised if that same person has a brother or a sister. Now, raise your other hand if you, yourself have ever been guilty of one or more of those nasty traits.
Arms getting tired???

That's exactly what I thought. 

Not a single one of us is born acting like an "only child". Bratty kids are usually a product of their upbringing, whether they have siblings or not. 
I have to believe that MOST parents don't set out to "spoil" their children. I wonder if it just sneaks up on them, one tantrum at a time. 

So here I am. An only child, raising an only child. As a mother, it is my job to. . . 

Teach my son to SHARE, so he is not considered selfish. 
Teach my son to be GENTLE, so he does not act aggressive toward others.
Teach my son to RESPECT, so he is not bossy.
Teach my son to be SWEET, so he could never be mistaken as spoiled rotten.
Teach my son to be EMPATHETIC, so nobody accuses him of being self centered.
Teach my son how it feels to WORK HARD for what he wants, because there is nothing worse than a man with entitlement issues. :)
and finally . . . 
Teach my son the importance of finding PEACE within himself, so he will never be lonely. 

Thank you, Mom. 
If I am able to teach my son any of these things, I owe IT ALL to you!
I.L.Y!





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